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Good and Evil of FEAR

What is Fear? According to Psychology Today, fear is an emotional response induced by a perceived threat, which causes a change in brain and organ function, as well as in behavior. Fear can lead us to hide, to run away, or to freeze in our shoes. Fear may arise from a confrontation or from avoiding a threat, or it may come in the form of a discovery.

I like to form the definition in an Acronym F- E- A- R…

F- Keeps you frozen in Place - You are so scared to do or think about anything else.

E - Excuse maker. The excuses are endless and the more you make, the easier it will be come to not move through the pain of fear. but you will be stuck in that spot forever.

A - All consuming. This fear is all that you are thinking about, which is keeping you up at night, affecting your concentration during the day,

R - Refuses to move you forward. NO change will occur unless you move through this fear.

Fear can also be explained as False Expectations Appearing Real. God says we should not fear because he has tomorrow. He is the one we should trust. He will take care of us. He will provide. So there is nothing to fear. Stand up and rise! Stand up and know that Christ is always with us. He will never leave us or forsake us. So we should have nothing to fear.

Here are some ways to move past this FEAR.

  1. GET A BIGGER WHY It is not easy to move out of our comfort zone and try new things, or make changes. Our brains are always going to try to keep us in a place that feels safe and cushy,

    The more afraid you are or become, the bigger our why has to become. Otherwise, when fear creaps in, so does procrastination, excuses and we give in.

    Get out a journal at this point, and ask yourself these questions:

    a. What good reasons do I have for moving forward on this? 

    b. What will my life look like once I have accomplished this?

    c. How will I feel? What will I be able to experience? What will other people see when they look at me? What will my relationships be like?

    d. What if I don’t do this thing I’m afraid of? 

    e. What might I miss out on? How will that feel? How will it affect my relationships and my loved ones if I stay stuck?

  2. HOLD YOURSELF AS CAPABLE There is always risk when we try something new - embarassment, rejection, and even failure. Keep telling yourself that, “ You are Capable”

    Here are some tips to help with this.

    a. Think of a time when you were a beginner at something . It was most likely awkward and scary at first, but as you gained experience and knowledge, it eventually became second nature. It is the same way each time you try something new. Keep moving past that initial awkwardness but the rewards are there for you if you do.

    b. Envision the future you who is no longer scared. The future you is confident, comfortable,and successful. What would the future you want to tell you at this moment?

    c. Remember every successful person has been through embarrassment, rejection, and failure. You are capable….you just have to put in the work.

  3. TAKE THE FOCUS OFF YOURSELF Our fear can really pull us into a tornado or emotions and thoughts. We keep thinking of the worst case scenarios, playing them over and over in our head. We need to take hold of these emotions. Switch that focus outward and ask yourself, Who will benefit from you taking action on your fears? How can you be a contribution in someone else’s life by stepping out of your comfort zone? Practice putting your focus on serving others and see how much better you end up feeling!

    Now Go and Conquer the World!!!

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